Adjusting to life in the U.S can be exciting and fulfilling. For the most part, American peers will be excited to meet someone from another country and interested to learn more about you. However, on occasion, bullying is an issue some teens can face. Here’s some information to consider that may help you to recognize, prevent, and respond to bullying.
1. What is Bullying in the U.S.?
Bullying is repeated aggressive behavior intended to hurt someone physically or emotionally. It can take different forms:
- Verbal Bullying: Name-calling, slurs, teasing, offensive jokes, threats.
- Social Bullying: Exclusion, spreading rumors, public embarrassment.
- Physical Bullying: Hitting, pushing, stealing/damaging belongings.
- Cyberbullying: Harassment via social media, texts, or online platforms.
2. Why Might Exchange Students Be Targeted?
Some bullies focus on differences, such as:
- Language barriers or accents
- Cultural differences (clothing, food, customs, religion)
- Lack of familiarity with social norms
- Being perceived as "different"
- Appearance
3. How to Handle Bullying
Do:
- Stay calm – Bullies often want a reaction.
- Ignore minor teasing – Sometimes, choosing not to react will stop the behavior.
- Set Boundaries. Speak firmly – Say, "Stop. That’s not okay. That comment is hurtful/untrue."
- Seek support – Talk to a teacher, host parent(s), liaison, or other AFS volunteer.
- Walk away if unsafe – Your well-being comes first.
Don’t:
- Fight back physically – You could get hurt or in trouble.
- Respond aggressively online – It can make things worse.
- Blame yourself – Bullying is never your fault.
After the Incident:
- Document details (what was said, who was involved, when/where it happened, taking screenshots or photos when possible).
- Talk to a trusted adult (host family, teacher, AFS volunteer).
- Report bullying or discrimination – Schools have policies against this.
4. Who Can Help?
- School Staff: Teachers, counselors, and principals are required to address bullying that takes place on school property.
- Host Family: They can guide you and contact the school if needed.
- AFS Volunteers: Your liaison and local support volunteers can offer support, and they can contact relevant school staff to intervene.
- Trusted Friends: Having a support network helps.
- AFS-USA Duty Officer number: 1-800-237-4636, press 9*
5. U.S. Laws & Anti-Bullying Policies
- Schools must have anti-bullying policies.
- Cyber-bullying can be reported to school officials or even police, depending on the content and severity.
- Discrimination-based bullying (race, nationality, religion) violates federal laws.
6. Building Confidence & Making Friends
- Join clubs/sports – Helps you connect with peers.
- Practice English – Improves communication and confidence.
- Share your culture – Ask to do presentations at your school. Many students will find your culture, customs, and life back home interesting.
Most U.S. students are friendly and welcoming. If bullying happens, speak up—people will help you. Your experience should be positive, so don’t stay silent if you’re being mistreated.